STAGES OF ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP 4
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Usually, couples experience romantic love before engaging in along-life commitment. Almost all love relationships navigate throughvarious predictable stages, each with unique characteristics(Ogolsky, Lloyd & Cate, 2013 Rathus, Nevid & Fichner-Rathus,2014). Different scholars recognize different stages of a romanticrelationship, but all of them are related (Pines, 2013). Peter Blareand Kelly Jones is a good example of a couple that has succeededthrough the various stages of a romantic relationship. This paperdescribes the experiences of Blare and Kelly from the beginning oftheir love relationship to marriage.
Love Relationship between Blare and Kelly
Blare and Kelly have been in love relationship for five years andfour months. Their love relationship ended in life-long commitmentthrough a beautiful and attractive wedding ceremony a month ago.During the marriage ceremony, the couple seemed to be verycomfortable, committed and happy about their relationship. Thefollowing day after the wedding day, the two narrated about theirexperiences in the love relationship since the initiation.
According to Blare and Kelly, their love relationship startedback in college. Although both started the college life during thesame year, Blare noticed the beauty of Kelly during the second year,when they were carrying out a test in a chemistry laboratory. Blarenoticed that Kelly had a beautiful face and a nice light-brown hair.In addition, Blare noticed that Kelly had most of the characteristicsof women that he liked, such as a good smile and a beautiful bodyshape. Blare decided to show interest to Kelly through providingguidance on how to carry out school assignments. With time, theirrelationship evolved into a romantic relationship.
According to Blare and Kelly, they enjoyed fun moments with eachother for about one year they used to take the meal together, theysupported each other during hardships, and they frequently went fortrips together during holidays. However, during the last year incollege, there were many conflicts and struggles in theirrelationship. They frequently disagreed about the best approaches toissues. In most cases, the disagreements occurred due to complaintsfrom Kelly, that Blare was concentrating too much on books and gamesand hardly gave attention to their love. According to Kelly, shelearned that Blare was hot tempered, and he even slapped her one dayover a minor disagreement. The conflicts evolved to the point whereboth felt like they had opposing interests and considered breakingthe relationship.
However, Blare sought for advice from Joe, an old friend, about theway forward. Joe advised Blare that most people in romanticrelationships experience similar difficulties, but they succeed aftersuccessful management. Joe advised Blare to go and discuss theirdifferences with Kelly. Fortunately, Kelly had already learned thepersonal traits of Blare. When Blare approached Kelly, she quicklyexpressed that she still in love with him and would continue tocommit to their relationship. Her only request was for Blare to spendmore time with her, which Blare agreed. Blare also accepted that hehad also ignored their relationship, and he expressed that he wasdetermined to concentrate more on it. In short, they managed toresolve their conflicts after understanding the reality about theirinterests and how to manage their differences (Segrin, & Flora,2012).
The love relationship between Blare and Kelly became more stableafter they realized that they had similar, as well as different goalsand desires. Each learned to respect the desires of the other.Eventually, Blare realized that it would be difficult to stop theirrelationship, and he decided to request Kelly to marry him. Kellyaccepted the proposal, and they planned for the marriage. Today,Blare and Kelly are focused on building a family and are committed tocommunal activities.
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